For many people it always seems easier to find fault then to look for what is good and use positive reinforcement. Can anyone imagine a man (or woman) coming home from work complaining about dinner and pointing out all his (or her) wife’s (or husband’s) flaws and two hours later expect (hope for?) stress relief cooperation. It would almost never happen.
There is a political analogy here if you look for it.
Society seems to believe never ending negative criticism will change people the way you want. It does not work that way and is destructive to getting good people to run for office let alone to volunteer their time at OCRP H.Q. We have two choices, The Golden Rule or slinging mud. I do slip sometimes, as we all do, When I do, I acknowledge it quickly, accept responsibility and try to be more golden then muddy. It does feel lonely sometimes being just a target; I often wonder how candidates do it.